Physical and sexual abuse are never acceptable. Violence against women—or anyone, for that matter—is unequivocally wrong.

Yet, statistics reveal that 85% of abuse victims return to their abusers.

For victims of abuse, the reality is rarely black and white.

The abuser is often someone they love deeply. This person may be wonderful 99% of the time, providing warmth, affection, and companionship. But with each instance of abuse, the boundaries that victims set for themselves gradually erode.

With love, comes understanding.

Perhaps the abuser has experienced personal trauma, reacting impulsively and aggressively when triggered.

Perhaps they struggle with a temper or an impulse control disorder, feeling profound regret after their actions.

They could be kind, intelligent, and the perfect partner in every other aspect. Yet, they still inflict harm. When they lose control, they hurt the very person they claim to love.

Do you leave when you know they love you with an intensity no one else ever could?

Do you stay when you know that one day they could hurt you so severely that your life would be irrevocably changed?

Do you stay when you understand that if the person you love caused you harm, they would be unable to live with themselves afterward?

If you are a victim of domestic violence, the time to leave the relationship is now. If you're not mentally ready to leave, it's crucial to create an exit plan—one that you can execute at a moment's notice.

If you have left an abusive partner, it is normal to experience moments of weakness. You may find yourself reminiscing about the good times, feeling tempted to give them another chance. During these moments, it is essential to remind yourself of the reasons you chose to walk away.

Consider writing down everything they did to hurt you, whether on a piece of paper or in your phone. Keep it accessible and read it during those vulnerable moments. Let it serve as a reminder of why you made the right decision to distance yourself from an unhealthy relationship. Your safety and well-being must always come first.

National Commission for Women Helpline: Available 24/7 at (7827170170)

Central Social Welfare Board - Police Helpline: Available at (1091/1291) or (011) 23317004

Shakti Shalini: Available at (10920) or (011)24373736/24373737

SAARTHAK: Available at (011) 26853846/26524061

All India Women's Conference: Available at (10921) or (011) 23389680

JAGORI: Available at (011) 26692700 or +918800996640

Joint Women's Programme: Available at (011) 24619821

Sakshi - violence intervention center: Available at (0124) 2562336/5018873

Saheli - a women's organization: Available at (011) 24616485 on Saturdays

Operation Peacemaker: Available at (1800 212 9131)

Aks Foundation: Available at +91 8793 088 814