Our brains are wired to fall in love,
To feel the bliss and euphoria of romance,
To enjoy pleasure, bond and procreate,
Feel-good neurochemicals drag you into a trance.

At each stage of lust or attraction,
Dopamine boost gives us ecstasy,
Feelings are assisted by oxytocin,
The “cuddle hormone,” of our fantasy.

Love happens in various phases,
The Ideal Stage of Romance comes first, Healthy idealization doesn’t blind us,
But it fulfills the 'companion finding' thirst.

Unhealthy it becomes if we’re depressed,
Or low self-esteem and confidence we find,
When we idealize a prospective partner, Overlook signs of trouble, love becomes blind.

The neurochemicals of romance can 
Lift depressed mood, fuel codependency,
Love sometimes becomes an addiction when,
We seek a relationship to look fancy.

These relationships are 'love on the rebound'
Or a 'transitional relationship' after a breakup,
This entire cycle breaks the mind like an addiction,
And it becomes difficult to patch us up.

The Ordeal Stage of Romantic Love comes  Starting after six months when,
We learn more things about our partner,
We learn flaws, ignorance and dislike then.

As the high wears off, we revert back,
We don’t feel as unselfish, as loving,
We may have gone out of our way to accommodate,
Now we complain about everything.

But we want those blissful feelings back,
Rather than try to change our partner,
Our efforts are better placed,
On learning to accept him or her.

This doesn’t mean accepting abuse.
This is the struggle for intimacy and,
Requires a commitment by both partners,
To get through the ordeal stage at hand.

A question that receives quite a bit,
Of attention in the psychological literature,
Is why people fall in love?
And what are the true love's feature.

The desirable characteristics in the one,
In beliefs at times we find similarity,
Through reciprocal liking, arousal and needs,
We discover the comfort zone of propinquity.

We look for the unusualness,
And the desire to discover a mystery 
We look for readiness, for compatibility,
And maybe for a common life history

And thus love happens,
From the brain, not from the heart,
It's all chemicals, rather than just feelings,
And it is just an adjustment from the start.

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A/N This is the chemical reaction, the real neuroscience or neurochemistry of love. Now that you know, I hope this helps you gain a better perspective on your relationships and feelings