Romance!!! We see this action on the screen most times, two people dating, falling in love and stuff 😒 bleh! 😂😂 just kidding, but bleh! 😒

Is Teen Dating right? 😐

Queen - It is normal but I prefer to date unwanted characters in books

Nike -  Teen dating I feel is normal  but unnecessary.

Rita - Why do you say that?

Nike - Why go into something that wouldn't last? You stand to loose a lot of things.

🌚 This is going to be an interesting one.

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While some teens will start dating earlier than others, romantic interests are normal and healthy during adolescence— or is it? Some kids are more overt or vocal about their interest in dating but most are paying attention and intrigued by the prospect of a romantic life, even if they keep it to themselves.

Today's teens spend a lot of time texting and posting to potential love interests on social media. For some, that can make dating easier because they can test the waters and get to know one another online first. For those teens who tend to be shy, meeting in person can be more difficult or awkward, especially since kids spend so much time tied to their electronics at the expense of face-to-face communication.

I have had so many online relationships without meeting the person I am supposedly involved with 😂😂

Who else is on that boat?

Cherry - Like me😂... It's weird for me to see people face to face. I prefer chatting, and I hate phone calls

Rae - Not me😂 anyways I used to be extremely shy but then then I realised I could be a better person by trying to be comfortable with new people.

Nike - I prefer seeing face to face

Queen - I'm on the boat where I form relationships with book characters and lose them after the book ends or the author decides to kill them😊

Social media is a top venue for flirting

While most teen romantic relationships do not start online, technology is a major vehicle for flirting and expressing interest in a potential partner. Along with in-person flirting, teens often use social media to like, comment, “friend” or joke around with someone on whom they have a crush.

♊ - I don't think all teens get in relationships date for fun.
I feel some are actually serious, but they choose the wrong person to be serious with.

I strongly agree with this statement above.

Amba - Teen dating is normal na😂 but I feel it's a distraction. We as teens have to focus on our studies first the rest should be secondary. I believe if the love is really true it will never end.

Meewee - Sometimes you just need to do it to get the experience but their are some people who are not down for dating in their teens.

Cherry - Distance relationship, online relationship, I don't totally support it. I prefer knowing the person face to face, then we can back it up with social media.

Rae - I've never tried it before but I guess if you guys are committed it can work, but it's going to be difficult.

Ashawo - Pending on the age of the partners if you ask me.
If they are both not independent, I believe it won't work out eventually. They'd just waste each other time.

Rita - I agree with this, sometimes younger partners get scared.
A girl liked a guy, almost in the 'love' stage. But she was just 17 and while the guy was 21.
He wanted to go serious, she didn't, not because she didn't like him, but well...

Ashawo - The guy is a paedo tho
He should have waited for her, he could go to prison

Rita - True

But well, no one really knows of their relationship and even if they did, some won't mind because they may have done far worse

Ashawo - Doesn't still make it right

Rita - yeah, I see your point
So, what advice would you give teens?

Ashawo - They should do whatever they like but be calculative about it. This life has no manual.

Rita - Thank you 😌😌

Cherry - Plus, for me, I find relationships tiring. You have to put in a lot of effort to keep your partner, and some other things that drain energy.

I do have a different opinion on this particular comment above, if you have had relationships like this, share them with us here ---------->>>>

I think relationships get tiring when you aren't with the right partner for you. Or where you get involved with a girl because of her looks and not her personality, after you have gotten what you really want, you may get tired of the relationship, because there are other loaded fishes in the sea.

Cherry - Naija teens (most of them) hide it from their parents. Whites are open with it.

♊ - Because of the type of parents we have

Rita - True, most Naija parents wouldn't even know that their 20 something year old daughter isn't a virgin anymore.
American parents may be aware of that.

Cherry - 💀😂💔

Queen - If it's not for marriage, it's for fun. The things that go down in an actual relationship these days aren't morally and religiously right and those things should be saved for your spouses😊
I'm not judging or anything. It's just that "just because everyone is doing it doesn't make it right"😊

Mr_whatizname - You set the standards for your relationships, just saying.

Queen -  That's where peer pressure comes in

♊ - True.

Have you ever felt pressured by a friend to get into a relationship, feel free to share that here ---------->>>>>

We were joined by the Big wolf, and here is his opinion.

Bigby wolf - Well I feel it's normal sha.
It's a part of growing up but tbh in some sense it's kinda stupid too,
Cause I think it leaves a lot of people with broken hearts and overall general sceptism of things at a very early.... Trust issues may arise... Loss of self confidence... Shit like that.... Tho when a relationship is good it can be the total opposite but at an early age a lot of us don't even know what exactly we're looking for somebody... Some of us still don't
Plus other factors that may come in and shit... The relationship might truly just end in tears and I don't feel teens need that kinda drama so early
My thoughts tho.
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Rita - Nice, this is right.
Do you think teens enter early relationship because they tend to be needy and want attention?

Bigby wolf - Weeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllll
Iono think it's that straight forward
I personally believe in the diversity of human beings.
As far as humanity is concerned things aren't as black and white that we can easily point to some things and place then under categories
I feel teens enter relationships for a lot of different reasons
Sure some are needy
Sure, some want attention
Some it's just to experiment
Some its peer pressure
Me personally my first gf I dated her cause she liked me😅😅.... I didn't even like her like that sef
She liked me and she was sha cool so I just went... Fuck it why not😅😅

Rita - First, that's a long "well"
😂😂 you're right, people go into for many reasons.
Though I am curious, why date her if you don't like her?

Bigby wolf - Don't mind me jare😅😅
And as for why...
Tbh... I think I just wanted to date someone, maybe... Funny enough when we became a couple... We didn't do any couple stuff... No hugging... No kissing... Heck ion think we even shook hands😅
We just talked a lot... and for some reason back then I was terrified of going to her class 😅
So it was majorly after school or online we'd talk
We were glorified besties tbh😅

Rita -  😂😂😂
My first ever relationship was 😐😐 the guy only wanted to date me so he can rock me in the school's party 😂😂💔
I didn't attend, we left the relationship without voicing it.
    
Bigby wolf - LMAOOO 😂😂😂
My chest😅😅😅😅😅😅

But seriously, if we are going to secondary school experience, I am pretty sure I am not the only one on that boat.

Our beautiful poet later joined the discussion, and she dropped an epistle for us 😂😂💔

Pearl - Okay now, yes I feel it's right.
( I'm simple, so yes I basically answered the first question)

It differs yes, varies and all that. Some start dating early let's say 13 - 14 (personally I think that's too early though😂️, at least reach 16 first na🌝)

It's perfectly healthy yes, but why do I feel like I'm unhealthy then👀💀😂😂To be honest though, the idea of dating before do repulse me.🚶🏽‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️Now to flirting,😂😂😂😂 I flirt a lot, but don't let me go deep biko. Let me digress a bit, we Africans or maybe Nigerians most of us don't make things easy for ourselves😩,️ I can imagine my mum disowning me if I tell her I had a boyfriend.💀👀 They call me baby you know😂😂😂😂, but yes, it's good, it's healthy, it's normal. Though I say this everytime,😂😂 I won't date just for feelings sake, just to catch cruise and all, nope, I will date because I feel we can build something much more than that tog️ Just saying this too, I can see myself already looking at my female child with one kain eyes if she says she has a boyfriend by 16,🙆🏾‍♀️😭😂😂😂😂 it's not my fault🤧🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🏽‍♀️🚶🏽‍♀️

Well 😂😂😂 that's was interesting.

We'd talk about a lot of other interesting stuff 🌚😜😂😂 but these are the important ones.